Dearest Lauren:
From the perspective of Eternity, the Spirit and Bride have always been together. In reclaiming that unity, such simplicity can be attained only through grace. We must navigate to the goal with the minimum of mental, emotional, and physical energy.
An authoritative critique would be from those who had accomplished the act. Manifestly, lacking that, in their self-seeking, they can offer only resistance in the form of complicating criteria.
Focus on what matters. Life belongs with Love. Circumstances will resolve.
Your Servant